By Mihaela Avram, Vocational Counselor, Coach, Mentor in SIM’s Community
"Do not take yourself too seriously, no one leaves here alive!" Elebert Hobbard
Imagine yourself on the heights of success!
You do not need the big house and expensive clothes if the ideal job for you is to help children in Africa. In my coaching career and beyond, I have met people who have created their own lifestyle and are happy and prosperous. There is no specific template, and you are the one making the choices.
Many people do the opposite, create a particular lifestyle and have a job that they do not particularly like, but that maintains their fancy style. You may want to get rid of that lifestyle to live the life you want. While many clients are becoming more and more prosperous after orienting their lives around skills, abilities, values, passions, some people choose professions in which they receive a lot of recognition and not financially. We all know that it is not necessarily true, that when you do what you love, you are also financially rewarded very well - for example, a Romanian teacher passionate about his work and loves working with children, or… Van Gogh.
I propose an Exercise… I invite you to think “outside the box” and to project your life that you dreamed in secret ☺.
What if money were not an object? …
I found that once in 3,4 years, it is a good idea to go beyond the limits of thinking and ask yourself… "Is it possible for me"? Now that you are working on a change in your professional life, it is the perfect time to think about what your ideal life would look like, but the professional one ?! Here are some options for this practice:
Ask your friends, family and think with them…
If you had all the money in the world, what would you do? … Find out what everyone says.
Take a pen and an agenda and write down 100 things you would do, what you would be or what you would have if you had all the money in the world.
If you found out you only had 6 months to live, what would you do?
Or play the genius ☺….
Imagine going to sea in a boat; suddenly, you see in the sea a bottle with paper inside and a pen. You take it out and write on paper: You can have, you can be everything you want, you just need to write on this paper in the next 5 minutes from now on. There are no limits! If you want to fly on the moon, there is no problem, if you want to be president… or you have a fantasy of being a famous actor… or maybe you dream of a red Porsche… maybe you want to visit the pyramids of Egypt or sunbathe on the sand white in the Canary Islands… let yourself and note anything during this time. As many as possible, at least 30 things ... ideal. Your choices may seem crazy or impossible, or too expensive or too complicated. No matter how they are, write any desire, dream, fantasy, hope you have... all of them start with a thought, then action and reality.
!!! The purpose of this exercise is to replace limiting beliefs with what you believe and want in this life. Most people want too little.
Now that you have this list in hand let's see what you want ?! I mean the top 10 things: WHAT DO YOU WANT TO HAVE, BE, DO? Imagine that you are on the porch of the house, at the honorable age of 80 and you are talking to your partner… What exactly do you regret that you did not have, had, been? Many people end up saying that "I did not spend enough time with those I love or I did not forgive x, or I didn't apologize to y". .. straightforward things and so heavy at the same time. Let's not waste time and regret old age. DARE!
IF MONEY WERE NOT AN IMPEDIMENT, I WILL:
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(article published in https://www.coachingdinpasiune.ro/cum-incep-sa-mi-proiectez-viata-ideala/)